Commit

A response for: Daily Prompt: Commit

This word has so much meaning to me. I’m committed to making my life better… However, I’m going to concentrate on the word “commitment” as a noun for this post rather than the verb “to commit”. Just a quick disclaimer: this post isn’t directed, nor is is about, any person in particular.

Commitments are some of the most important things to me and people take them too lightly. If you say that you’re going to do something and then fail to do so, I view you in a different light. I’ll give you another chance, but once you give me the commitment of doing something, I really hope that you come through on it. Otherwise, if I give you another chance and then you flake out on me, I won’t ask you for another commitment. If you’re too busy to commit your time to me, even if it’s something for as basic as a thing such as meeting up for coffee: don’t waste my time by making me think that you’ll be there when you won’t.

Basically, don’t waste my time, energy, or your own by committing to do something and then flaking out on me.

I think that I may take a friend’s idea of having rules of engagement for when dealing with him and they’re posted online. I should let everyone know my expectations as well as what they can expect from me. I think that it will help remove any potential misunderstandings and disappointments.

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As soon as I stopped worrying…

I know that it sounds a little far-fetched and like some “hippy shit”, but…

About month or so ago, I made a conscious decision to stop worrying. I noticed that as long as I do the next right thing and I stay positive, good things happen. I don’t consider it “giving up” or saying “fuck it”… I’ve surrendered to the Universe. Ever since then, I’ve been content and a little more happy nearly every day. I’m not euphoric or I may not even appear to be “happy” if I’ve had a long day or if I’m tired, but overall, I feel a lot better now. I find things to be happy and grateful for every day. Gratitude is contagious as are smiles! 🙂

We can only make personal decisions and each of those decisions can influence every other one and potentially touch another person’s life, the same goes in reverse. However, we can’t control what happens to anyone else in the world, nor can we control anyone else, so why try to force the Universe to do our bidding? As long as I keep doing the next right thing and being mindful of my decisions, everything is going to work out in the end, so why worry?

If you don’t have a job that you like and where it makes you die a little inside everyday… Find something else in the interim and quit it. (This hasn’t happened to me, but it’s some advice that I gave a friend recently.) It doesn’t have to be a “perfect job”, just enough that you can live on. I’ve made a few different shifts in my thinking lately so maybe it has something to do with it.

A person told me that worrying is like sitting and rocking in a rocking chair… It gives you something to do, but it doesn’t get you anywhere.

Rather than being stressed about things that are outside of my control, I’m focusing my efforts on things that I can… My health, my partner, my life. I’m a lot happier for it. As long as I have a place to live, I’m not hungry, and I basically have the things that I need to live, then I’m happy.

 

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… the unthinkable has happened.

I was assigned a MacBook Pro at work because it’s what I have to use… and I like it.

If/when I ever have some cash to throw away, I’ll buy one. It’s stable, runs my Linux VM well, etc.

I’m really liking the job. However, I’m counting down the days until I can go buy a new bicycle. I’m going to buy an electric bike to make it to/from work and any of the other commuting that I have to do. I know that it seems lazy, but Austin has some really big hills that I know I can’t do on my own yet. It’ll help me still get some exercise because the more you pedal, the more range you get.

I think that I’ll end need to save up for one… So, I’m going to invest in some locks and some safety gear as well. If anyone has any recommendations, please feel free to chime in. I’d like one that I can get assembled locally at a shop or I might even just go to an electric bike shop here in Austin and buy one locally.

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Having a little patience can pay off in the long run.

For about two months, I was searching for a new job. I have no hard feelings for the company that I was with, but I needed to find something with more hours.

One day, after sending out almost a hundred applications, I finally came to a realization that I would get a job that’s right for me when I needed it. At that moment, I stopped worrying about everything.

I have a family who loves me, a few great friends, and a caring partner. 

I didn’t need to worry about anything anymore.

Worrying doesn’t accomplish anything but give you stress.

As long as I stay sober, do everything that’s asked of me, show up to work and pay for my current bills, then everything will work out.

I’ve got a new job that I start next week and I’m looking forward to it. 

By having patience and not worrying too much about life, I’ve come to the realization that everything will work out ok in the long run. As long as I’m breathing, life is good. 🙂

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Daily Prompt: Center

Today’s post will be a little different as I’m just rambling today. 🙂

Every day, looking for the center of everything… Trying to be in the center of my feelings: not too happy, but not too depressed. I’m always half-way to loneliness. Getting around it by going on random “bus adventures” and then talking to complete strangers… People watching at a cafe or just walking around Austin… Being overly caffeinated just so that I can concentrate while I’m surrounded by distraction.

Finding the center of feelings (not emotions) as I can always appear to be “ok”, even though I’m just indifferent leads me to constant lie to others. However, here at this cafe, I don’t really think that I’m lying… Being surrounded by others helps me be distracted from the loneliness, so why not hang out and see what happens?

 

via Daily Prompt: Center

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Daily Prompt: Lush

This is the first daily prompt for my new blog. This is the universe’s way of expressing itself through humor.

It seems that any time I’ve ever had any trouble what-so-ever with the law, there has been alcohol involved… Instead of playing a game of Russian roulette every time I would drink, now I’m abstaining from it.

I was involved in an accident last year which resulted in me needing to re-evaluate my alcohol use. Even though I was a very infrequent drinker, every time I would drink, it would always be to excess. I could never get a “medium/happy” buzz that most normal people can have. Either I was sober or I was three sheets to the wind… I put the word infrequent in bold because I went out to drink a total of two times in the year leading up to my DWI.

I had been out drinking because I was feeling lonely: my partner and I recently moved to Austin, TX. I wanted to get out and meet new people. It seems that the older you get, the more difficult it can be to meet new people and friends.

I was asked by someone if I missed drinking. How in the hell could I miss something that has caused me such heartache, misery, financial ruin, legal problems, and overall mental anguish? It made me start to laugh a little until I noticed that they were being serious… That’s when I told them truthfully: no, I don’t miss it. I had my last drink of alcohol 580 days ago and I still don’t miss it, nor do I want it.

It’s almost 1:20 AM. Many people who are out and drinking are now dreading the 1:30-1:45 AM “last call for alcohol” while I’m at home writing this and staying out of trouble.

I’d much rather be at a café with the potential of running into someone which results in an organically created conversation that I’ll remember instead of having a mediocre one based on “small talk” that I’ll more than likely forget the next day.

via Daily Prompt: Lush

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A new year, so a new start. (A little late)

Over the past decade, I’ve had a website that has been mostly a blog. Since a lot has changed in the past year or two and because of a mishap with a backup, rather than attempting to piece it all back together, I’ve decided to start over on this.

With the exception of a page “How can I change the world”, I’m considering it a completely fresh slate for me to start writing again. I’m going to participate in the word prompts when I can and I’ll probably just write about things that are currently happening in my life or anything that I feel that I should write about.

I’ve changed so much that the past posts that I did doesn’t really reflect who I am today. Yes, I’m an accumulation of all of my past, but I want to focus on my present and the future.

I would like to invite all of you to comment on any of my posts as a lot of people have in the past. I am putting myself out there in the hopes that an individual who reads it can walk away with something, so please feel free to comment, post replies, or use the contact form/s to contact me. I really enjoy it when I hear back from people.

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